What to do if you have a bad temper

People with bad tempers are quite common around us. For such people, we can only be patient and try to be tolerant and understanding. However, people with bad tempers often do not want to lose their temper, but they just cannot control their temper. They often lose their temper over small things or when they are in a bad mood. Moreover, people with bad tempers do not care about the occasion when they lose their temper. They lose their temper whenever they want and cannot control it at all.

People with bad tempers often regret their words and actions after they calm down, and want to control their temper. Perhaps there is no good way, or perhaps it is because of the great pressure of life and work, so they have not been able to change the habit of losing their temper. Today I want to share with you what to do if you have a bad temper, and what methods can be used to appropriately change your temper. I hope it will be helpful to you.

1. We must have sufficient understanding of the harmfulness of irritability and temper. In life, we often see that some people get angry over trivial matters, do things they shouldn’t do, cause vicious fights, and even lead to homicides. They end up in jail and often regret it afterwards. So losing your temper will not solve the problem, but will instead create new conflicts.

2. Enhance your sense of rationality and learn to control your anger. Enhancing our sense of rationality can help us think more about things, think more about others, think more about the consequences of things, take them seriously, and handle them with caution. Once you notice signs of impulsiveness, restrain yourself in time and strengthen your self-control.

3. Learn some good ways to help yourself control your bad temper. At home or on your desk, you can post warning signs such as "calm down" or "control your anger" to remind yourself to stay calm at all times. The Russian writer Turgenev once advised those who are prone to outbursts of passion that "it is best to roll your tongue in your mouth a few times before speaking" to help calm their minds by using the time buffer. When you are about to lose your temper, say to yourself something like "calm down, calm down, think twice, think twice". These methods all help to control emotions and enhance the brain's rational thinking. Diversion. When you find yourself getting emotionally agitated, in order to avoid an immediate outburst, you can consciously change the topic or do something else to distract yourself, shift your thoughts and feelings to other activities, and relax the tense emotions. For example, quickly leave the scene, do other things, talk to someone, take a walk, or simply run a few laps on the playground. This will release the energy caused by anger and your mood will calm down. Be flexible. There are many things that can be handled in multiple ways. You should act flexibly and not be so rigid. Sometimes you can give in and give the other party a chance to change their mind and attitude. When choosing a method, you should consider the effect of the matter. You can also use a small notebook to record the reasons and processes of each temper tantrum. By recording and recalling, analyzing and sorting out your thoughts, you will find that many of your temper tantrums are meaningless and you will feel ashamed. In the future, the number of angry attacks will be reduced a lot.

4. Consider the problem from a different perspective and be considerate of other people’s feelings. As a person, you should have a little "magnanimity", that is, be tolerant of others, be "lenient to others and strict with yourself", and don't blame others for every little thing. It is extremely impolite to lose your temper with classmates over trivial matters. You get angry, frustrated, and feel happy, but this kind of happiness is built on the pain of others. If you were in someone else's position and someone lost their temper with you, what would you think? Therefore, a person who always thinks about others and is considerate of others will not vent his anger on others even if he is unhappy, and will not impose his unhappiness on others.

5. Listening to music can regulate your emotions. You tend to get easily excited and agitated, so it is recommended that you listen to music with slow tempo, soft melody, elegant tone, beautiful and relaxing music when you have time. This can also help to calm your emotions and change your bad temper. I hope you can participate in more group activities, talk more with other students, understand others, understand others, and also understand yourself, so that you can treat yourself correctly. As long as you have determination, perseverance, action and keep working hard, your bad temper will definitely improve, and you will gradually become gentle, tolerant and calm, and get along well with more classmates.

Sometimes people with bad temper may have a bad liver and are prone to getting angry. At this time, they can drink some chrysanthemum tea to reduce the heat. It may be due to excessive mental stress due to various factors. In daily life, they should adjust their work and rest time, do not stay up late, eat less spicy food, and drink less alcohol. This will also improve the habit of bad temper.