The main reasons for spanking children

There is a Chinese saying that goes "A filial son is born under the stick." Nowadays, there are still some parents who agree with this idea, which is contrary to the theory of modern education. Some parents think that their children are their own children and are like their private property. They beat and scold their children as they please, and think that only in this way can they educate their children well. Little do they realize that this idea is very wrong and may even cause irreversible harm to the children's psychology and physiology.

The main reasons for spanking children

1. Traditional education concepts

It is undeniable that traditional education concepts still have a subtle influence on us, such as "no beating, no success" and "a filial son is born under the stick". Because in traditional concepts, the relationship between parents and children is one of superiors and subordinates, and there is no concept of respecting children and getting along with them on an equal footing. Traditional culture places more emphasis on interactions among peers, but it is sorely lacking in parent-child relationships.

2. Poor self-emotional management

If parents are not mature enough, it will be a heavy pressure and burden for their children. When encountering difficulties or setbacks in life, some parents tend to vent their anger on their children. When parents’ expectations of their own lives or work cannot be met, they hope that their children can act completely according to their instructions. Once the children’s performance fails to satisfy the parents, the parents will most likely beat and scold them.

3. Familiar growth experience

Due to the failure to accept new knowledge in a timely manner or lack of experience, some parents simply apply their original parents' parenting model. As long as their children do not follow their parents' wishes, they will be punished by beating and scolding. Therefore, when he cannot make his children do things or live in his way, he likes to discipline his children in the most familiar way.

4. Seek a quick and convenient method

Some parents are too lazy to think of other ways to discipline their children, and believe that beating and scolding are the most convenient and most effective methods. Therefore, whenever a child makes a mistake, the first thing that comes to mind is to punish the child.