How to deal with children's rebellious psychology

It is common for children to have a rebellious mentality in life, and this is also a relatively normal phenomenon. When children have a rebellious mentality, good guidance is very necessary for parents. Avoid using some rough means to interfere. Respect children, recognize children, communicate more with children, and correct children's mistakes tactfully. This is an art, and parents should understand and learn more about it.

How to deal with children's rebellious psychology

1. Respect your children

Children also need respect and recognition from others. When children are rebellious, parents cannot simply punish them or even commit domestic violence. The first priority is to understand the reasons for their children's rebellion. And show your children that you are willing to listen to their ideas and respect their choices. If this is the case, then the parents have the upper hand. But if parents directly reject their children's views and undermine their self-confidence; or if parents act as if they don't care, know everything, and look down on their children's opinions, these will make children feel angry and become more rebellious. Parents should encourage and guide their children to express their opinions bravely, and let them know that their parents also value and respect their ideas.

2. Pay attention to language

When communicating with your children, try to use a tone that seeks consent. Children in their rebellious period do not want to be ordered or forced to do things. When parents make demands on their children, they should try to avoid using strong words, such as "must, must", etc., which will cause children to resist. On the contrary, it is best to adopt a negotiating tone. When you disagree with your children, you should tell them why they should do this and not that. Tell them your opinions, reduce friction with your children, and control their rebellious psychology.

3. Correct your child’s mistakes tactfully

Don't criticize your children directly for the mistakes they make. Instead, ask questions indirectly and tactfully, and explain the reasons why they make mistakes. This will prevent your children from developing rebellious emotions. In life, parents will subconsciously correct their children's mistakes directly, criticize everything their children do, and overly blame their children in order to establish their own image in their children's minds. However, such an approach will only have a counterproductive effect and strengthen the child's rebellious psychology.

4. Learn to listen

Whenever a problem arises, parents should first express their willingness to listen to their children's opinions. The best way to slow down a child's rebellious behavior is to ask questions first and then listen carefully and patiently. When children's opinions are contrary to their parents', parents should not be impatient to interrupt their children or refute their views, but most parents will do so in this situation. Therefore, it is best for parents to restrain this impulse, let the children finish speaking first, and give them corresponding encouragement so that children can develop the habit of expressing their opinions. Tell the children that you will seriously consider their opinions, so as to resolve the children's rebellious emotions.