How can a straightforward person become smooth?

Perhaps the most difficult thing in this world is how to be a human being. Although the character “人” is easy to write, it is not easy for everyone to be a good person. Some people are very capable but they are not very good at dealing with people. What they say are always unpleasant to people, so they offend people everywhere. Some people don't have any real ability, but they know how to deal with people. Such people are smooth in their dealings, like fish in water, and are good at dealing with people. So, how can a straightforward person become tactful?

1. Be a good listener

As the saying goes, people have two tongues, and whoever speaks is right. People who talk endlessly are the worst at speaking. The highest level of speaking is listening. Lead while speaking and think while listening.

2. Think more about what others need

The Art of War by Sun Tzu says, "Know yourself and the enemy, and you will not be in danger when fighting a hundred battles." In fact, it can also be said as, "Know yourself and the enemy, and you will not be in danger when fighting a hundred battles." First of all, you should think about what the other party needs, instead of making your own plans behind closed doors. If you want to deal with your opponent, you must learn to think like your opponent. Then many things will become much simpler!

3. Exploiting the vulnerability

There is nothing perfect in this world, so everything has loopholes, and if there are loopholes, they can be exploited. Human nature is greedy, and as long as there is greed, there will inevitably be weaknesses that can be exploited!

4. Willing to suffer losses

If you want to get it, you must give it first. Some people refuse to take any loss at all, because if they do, people will say they are stupid. They don't understand that the benefit of a surprise attack is the lowest cost and greatest benefit only when the opponent has lost vigilance and defense. But the prerequisite for doing so is that you must understand the other person's thoughts and the real situation.

5. Don’t get stuck in a rut

All roads lead to Rome, and a tactful person will not get stuck in a rut. He knows when to persist and when to give in. He will not brood over trivial matters, nor will he be foolish enough to fight for a honor. Keep your mind flexible and curious, maintain your agility and long-term vision, and always leave yourself a way out.

6. Will choose

Choice is more important than effort. I believe everyone has heard this sentence. If you are working in the wrong direction, even if you work harder, you will go further and further on the wrong path. If you stand on the wrong team, even if you work harder, you will not get the due appreciation! Therefore, we must learn to think independently, not be superstitious about experience or authority, only believe in our own thinking, and then make reasonable choices!

7. Respect people

This is the most basic accomplishment, but many people can’t do it! Snobs are everywhere, so they are disliked. No matter who this person is, give him due respect. Things may change over time! No one can predict who will have a better future. The more friends you have, the better chance you have.