What should I do if my daughter has a bad temper?

If you have a daughter at home, she needs a good education. If your daughter has a bad temper, as a parent you must understand the reasons for her bad temper. Is it because the environment you provide for your child is not harmonious enough, or is it because the child has some problems at school? At this time, you must adopt a counseling method, take a cold approach, discipline her but not punish her, and avoid a rebellious mentality. Let’s take a look at this aspect.

1. Discipline is not punishment

There are many reasons why children make mistakes and act naughty. The most important thing is that we need to understand clearly why children make mistakes. Children may make mistakes out of childishness, jealousy, panic, fatigue, stress, or frustration. We should spend more time playing with our children, reading books together, and building a good parent-child relationship. A deep understanding of our children's minds helps us choose appropriate discipline methods. Anticipating possible naughty behavior in children can help us prescribe the right medicine. For example, if we are afraid that our child will have a tantrum in the supermarket, before we go out, we'd better explain to him our shopping plans and what we expect from him.

Don't think that children are only concerned with throwing tantrums; they are actually secretly observing your reaction. When you encounter this kind of situation, you must remain unyielding despite the might. Ignore him and make it clear to your child that you have seen through his tricks and that they won't work. In order to make the cold treatment effective, we must do a good job of ideological work among the older generation in advance and never let a "Cheng Yaojin" show up halfway. In addition, parents should remind themselves not to be infected by their children's bad temper. If the child does not listen to your advice, tell yourself that people are like this when they are angry. Give him some time to cool down.

3. Take it step by step

Some children may appear impatient even when completing tasks that are within their capabilities. When encountering this situation, parents can give their children more encouragement. If the child is still unwilling to do it by himself, parents can help the child get started and then encourage the child to continue.

4. Don’t add fuel to the fire

When a child is in an irritable mood, parents should not make a fuss and ask the child what is wrong. Instead, they must control their own emotions, calm down first, observe the child carefully to identify the problem, and guide the child to calm down after venting his emotions. Afterwards, parents can find the right opportunity to express their hopes to their children, teach them how to deal with their emotions correctly, and promote the development of their children's self-emotional control ability.

5. Distract

Many children like to act unreasonably, wanting to attract adults' attention or get certain rewards. There are many reasons for this. For example, some children do not like to brush their teeth, so every time they brush their teeth, they will deliberately make trouble or make noise; some children do not let their parents leave, and even if their parents are in a hurry to go to work, they just don’t let them wait. When dealing with young children, the approach of reasoning as taught in the books is definitely not feasible. Children care more about their own feelings, and if you force them to submit with a tough attitude, both adults and children will be very angry. A better way is to find ways to divert his attention, giving him a sense of freshness without violating the parents' principles.