Improve communication skills

Humans are social animals and have to deal with different people every day. If they can improve their communication skills, on the one hand, it means that their emotional intelligence is relatively high, and on the other hand, they can work and live better in society. If you want to improve your communication skills, you should usually do some training, especially in the psychological aspect, you should be prepared, learn to listen, and give trust to the other party. Let us briefly understand this aspect.

Improve communication skills

1. Focus on the present and avoid distracting thoughts

When we communicate, we often have a habit of easily causing the transfer of ideas due to something during the conversation. When communicating with others, self-associations and experiences are often triggered, and attention is shifted from the conversation to one's own thoughts. At this time, the other person's words are not actually heard.

The best way to get the other person's attention in a conversation is to say "no": "Your point of view is wrong, I disagree with your opinion, I oppose your opinion..." Long-term education has made us believe that things are dualistic, especially when facing major events, everyone feels that they hold the only correct point of view. Therefore, it is customary to deny the other party first in order to prove the correctness of one's own point of view. However, they do not realize that this way of expressing opinions will lead the conversation into arguments, confrontations, and debates, and may ultimately end in an unpleasant breakup.

If you want to express your own opinion, then just express your opinion directly. There is no need to deny other people's ideas.

3. If you don’t know, say you don’t know

A boaster is definitely not a popular conversationalist. Some partners may want to be taken seriously by everyone, but the best way is to be careful with what they say and do during the conversation. Don't become unpopular because of your recklessness, and don't affect everyone's mood and atmosphere by pretending to know something you don't. After all, there is no wall that is impenetrable.

If you don’t know or understand, then just say it directly. This is a good opportunity to learn.

4. Try not to repeat yourself

"Important things should be said three times" was a meme on WeChat Moments a few days ago. However, if you keep repeating yourself during a conversation, people's impression of you may change. People will see you as someone who is strong, aggressive, and difficult to deal with. At home and at work, this way of communicating will drive others away from you. Who wants to be with someone who constantly emphasizes the importance of things?

5. Be brief and to the point, don’t waste words

Few people can do this, especially when the other person expresses interest in your business. We always tend to make the same mistake as Xianglin Sao, telling the other party every detail, but who really cares? Try to be brief and to the point in your conversation. The fewer insignificant details the better. People really don't care about the details about you. They care more about who you are as a person and what kind of connection they can have with you. Setting aside time for more in-depth communication and discussion will help achieve these results.