How to improve poor psychological quality

Poor psychological quality is a common psychological phenomenon in life. Some people cannot keep calm when encountering anything. If not handled properly, it may affect work relationships and interpersonal relationships. For people with poor psychological quality, the most important thing is to exercise more, participate more, and be fully prepared to do things. In addition, do not set too high requirements on yourself and set your goals as low as possible.

How to improve poor psychological quality

1. Exercise more and participate more. No matter what it is, as long as you participate more and give yourself the opportunity to exercise, over time and more times, you will naturally become "practice makes perfect" and "long-term training in the battlefield makes a hero".

2. Don’t set too high standards for yourself. Although it is said that “pressure creates motivation,” if you set too high standards for yourself and put too much pressure on yourself, your psychological endurance will decrease. I am always worried that I won't be able to do this well. I keep thinking about it in my mind, but the more I think about it, the more confused I become. In fact, who can do something perfectly? Just do your best to do it well. After trying your best, even if you make mistakes in the middle, so what? If you make a mistake, can't you just correct it? Why make yourself so tired?

3. Set your goals lower. Set goals according to your own abilities and do not exceed your capabilities. For example, when participating in any competition, there is no need to force yourself to win a big prize. If you fail to win a big prize, you will feel "shameful" or something. If you can't win the Excellence Award, winning an Encouragement Award is also good, or even a Participation Award is also fine. By lowering the target value you set for yourself, the psychological pressure will be much less. Without the "worries", the "tension" will disappear as well, and you will be able to remain calm. Going into battle "feeling relaxed" will help you perform normally, and you will take home the "big prize".

4. Learn more from other people’s “experiences”. Whether online or in real life, you can learn from other people’s “practices” and absorb other people’s excellent experiences. For example, when participating in a speech contest, some people are afraid of forgetting the words or getting stage fright, so they arrive at the scene early, familiarize themselves with the environment, and "rehearse" in advance to reduce the psychological "barriers" caused by not adapting to the unfamiliar environment. This is also a good method worth learning.

5. Be well prepared in advance, be confident and have a good chance of winning. If you are going to participate in any program or activity, be well prepared in advance, familiarize yourself with and master everything you are going to perform. Remember every word and every step by heart, so that you will not have any psychological trauma due to not being able to remember when you go on stage.

6. Always remind yourself, or give yourself the “hint” to “stay calm”. Before going on stage, you can quietly remind yourself in your heart that you must stay calm and not scare yourself. This is no big deal, it is “a small matter”, or you can hint to yourself: “Everyone who comes here is here to learn from you, you are the “expert”, and they are students who know nothing.”

7. Don’t take it too seriously. Face what you have to do calmly. Once you are ready, don’t keep it in mind. Don’t keep thinking about which step is not perfect or which sentence is not said well. Just face it calmly. The more you worry about it, the more "uneasy" you will feel because of nervousness. When you are nervous, your mind will easily become confused. When your mind is confused, it is easy to make mistakes. The more you make a mistake, the more afraid you will be. Once you are afraid, you will not be able to "perform" anymore.

8. Find someone you can trust to rely on. If you are really scared, you can also find someone you trust and rely on to accompany you to the scene. He can remind you at the right time, give you strength and support. With him around, you will no longer be "afraid".

9. "Force" yourself to actively participate. Many times, due to your poor psychological quality, you always consciously avoid all activities you can participate in. Over time, you get used to it and become less and less willing to change. Then you have to "force" yourself to actively participate in the activities. After failing once, twice, and N times, you will have nothing to be "afraid" of. If you are not afraid of failure, what else are you afraid of? In the process of experiencing so many failures, hasn't your psychological quality improved?

10. Taking part in some "skill training" to improve psychological quality at ordinary times, "making up stories" and "seeking medical treatment from all directions" will not only be ineffective, but may make things worse. There are many institutions that often hold "skill training" courses to help people overcome psychological barriers. We might as well sign up to participate, get guidance from professional teachers, and learn systematically, and we will soon improve.