Girls have fear of contact with the opposite sex

Everyone loves beauty, and similarly, every girl has a man on a white horse in her heart, either the Prince Charming or Monk Tang Seng, but no matter what, the opposite sex is another part of everyone's life. There are also some people in life who are not good at communicating with others, and even less like to contact with the opposite sex. At this time, we will think that he is lonely, introverted, and does not like to communicate with others. However, in psychology, there is a situation where girls have a fear of contact with the opposite sex. What is going on?

Heterophobia:

It means that on the one hand, the patient has a strong desire to get close to the opposite sex in his subconscious mind, and on the other hand, he also has severe anxiety, so he shows symptoms of abnormal tension and fear in front of the opposite sex, and some even have psychological symptoms such as delusions of having relationships with the opposite sex. The main manifestation of fear of the opposite sex is not daring to make eye contact with the opposite sex, let alone talk to the opposite sex. Even if talking to the opposite sex, the face will turn red and the speech will be unclear. Once seeing the opposite sex walking towards oneself, the whole body will be tense and sweat.

Causes :

Heterophobia often comes from self-compulsive disorder. When you see the opposite sex, you force yourself not to look at him (her) and cause an inner struggle, or you force yourself to have some weird thoughts due to heterophobia. Then the more you try to control it, the more difficult it becomes to control.

Countermeasures:

First, increase the chances of contact with the opposite sex. The less contact you have, the less experience you have; the less experience you have, the more lost you are; the more lost you are, the more terrified you feel. If the problem is caused by too little contact, then this problem should be solved by increasing contact with the opposite sex. If you keep hiding, it will form a vicious cycle.

Second, properly deal with the psychological setbacks suffered from interacting with the opposite sex. Some friends may have suffered losses or been ridiculed when dealing with the opposite sex, and feel very embarrassed when they see the opposite sex again. Frustration leads to embarrassment, embarrassment leads to disgust, and finally disgust develops into fear. If this is the case, you must avoid generalizing and thinking that all people of the opposite sex are scary. This conclusion is incorrect. You cannot deny your ability to interact with the opposite sex because of setbacks, nor can you stop interacting with the opposite sex because of setbacks.

The third is the influence of feudal traditional ideas. Therefore, they are always highly alert and nervous when facing the opposite sex, and take interactions with the opposite sex too seriously. Associate the opposite sex with fear, be afraid when you think about it, and be even more afraid when you see it. Over time, a conditioned reflex will be formed, which will lead to serious psychological disorders. Therefore, we must solve the problem from the perspective of values ​​and treat interactions with the opposite sex as the most natural thing in human interactions.

The fourth is the fear of being ignored by the opposite sex. People are often like this. The more they want to succeed, the more afraid they are of making mistakes. The same is true when interacting with the opposite sex. If you are also afraid of being ignored, then you should expect to be ignored when dealing with the opposite sex. There will always be people of the opposite sex who like you and those who hate you, so you will definitely meet someone of the opposite sex who likes you, and he will definitely be enthusiastic towards you. With this plan, your fear of being ignored will gradually fade away.

Finally, you should remember this truth. In fact, the opposite sex is also afraid of you. If you face them directly, you will also feel the innocence and naturalness of interactions between the opposite sex.