What should I do if my girlfriend is afraid of pain for the first time?

Sexual behavior is a way for two people to express their love. When the relationship between two people develops to a certain stage, sexual behavior will naturally occur. When two people have sex for the first time, they should have a certain understanding of sexual life, and both parties should communicate heart to heart to avoid rough behavior. What should we do if one of the partners is afraid of sex and is afraid of pain?

If we perceive this new sensation as touch, a feeling of being stretched out, a feeling of fullness, we will not have an emotional reaction of fear;

If we have a preconception in our minds that the first night must be painful, then this new feeling will naturally be perceived as pain, which will make us fearful and afraid, because everyone is afraid of pain;

If we have positive expectations for sex, then we will perceive this feeling as strong sexual stimulation and sexual sensation, which will make us sexually excited. This is something that can be explained with common knowledge of psychology; it is not mysterious.

Pain during sexual intercourse is a very common sexual problem in women. There are many reasons for this, such as bacterial infection, drug stimulation, object allergy, and even excessive vaginal cleaning.

However, there are two common underlying factors that contribute to dyspareunia. That is vaginal dryness and vaginal tightness. The essence of sexual intercourse is physical friction.

Our skin often becomes uncomfortable when it rubs without lubrication. If it is the epidermis of the esophagus, gastroscopy will be extremely uncomfortable.

Many people have another mythical misunderstanding. They believe that as long as there is friction during sexual intercourse there will be pleasure. Little do they know that what they often get is only discomfort or even pain. After all, the vulva and vagina are very tender.

Vaginal dryness often leads directly to painful intercourse. Vaginal dryness means insufficient or no lubrication. This condition can occur when there is no sexual arousal or when stimulation is insufficient.

At the same time, psychological tension can also lead to insufficient lubrication secretion. Coincidentally, these are the problems that often arise on the first night. Then, the hymen itself is a friction barrier. The problem was exacerbated.

Furthermore, vaginal tension is also a serious problem. It may be severe enough to cause vaginismus. Vaginismus can make sexual intercourse impossible.

Think about an injection; when we are forced to undergo a painful insertion, it in itself exaggerates the pain. So, the myth of suffering exacerbates the suffering.

So, first-night pain may indeed be a common occurrence. However, this pain probably includes multiple aspects. However, the popular idea in society attributes all of this to the rupture of the hymen.

In fact, the hymen is rich in blood vessels but has only a few nerves. When it ruptures, it does not cause any noticeable pain. Some types of hymen rupture are almost painless.