How to treat avoidant personality effectively

The treatment of avoidant personality should pay attention to the correct methods and techniques. First of all, we should pay attention to changing passivity into initiative. At the same time, when facing some difficulties, we can try to communicate with others and solve them together. This is very important, especially after entering society.

The first step: change passive facing into active choice .

It seems that we are always forced to face the difficulties in life - exams, job applications, work, and marriage.

Let's think about the problem from a different perspective.

Take work as an example. If I don’t work, I won’t get a promotion or a raise. If I don’t get a promotion or a raise, I won’t be able to live the life I want. If I can’t live the life I want, I will have regrets and feel remorse for myself. So I would rather work than feel regret. In order not to feel regret, I choose to work.

If you take the initiative to face difficulties, they will no longer be difficult.

Thanks to the university version of the Growth Heart to Heart activity, this method came from the sharing of the instructor.

The second trick: write down all the difficulties, then think of solutions, and treat it as giving advice to others.

We always like to teach others, and it is always easier to solve other people's problems than to solve our own.

When we write down the difficulties, we are sorting out our messy inner mind. Once the difficulties are identified and our mind is clear, it becomes much easier to solve the problems.

For example, as a graduate preparing to work in a foreign country, renting a house is an important issue.

So I wrote: I want to solve the housing rental problem.

Then treat it as someone else's problem and try to find a solution. When renting a house, isn't it all about deciding on the location first? It can't be too far from the company, the price must be reasonable, the location must be safe, etc. Once the rental standards are established, it will be much easier to find a house based on the established standards.

The third trick: find a partner and work together to solve the problem.

It seems a bit difficult for one person to solve all the difficulties. The world is so big, there are always people who have encountered or are experiencing the same problems. So it’s a good idea to work with your partners to find a solution.

If you don’t want to review alone, find someone to go to the library with you to supervise each other. If you don’t want to look for a job alone, follow your classmates who are also looking for jobs. You may gain valuable experience.

The fourth trick: Don’t think about whether it is difficult or not, just keep moving forward.

This is the hardest thing to do.

When facing difficulties, the more you think about how difficult it is, the harder it will be. Just like running, the body will get tired, but if you keep saying you are tired, you will mentally break yourself down. At this time, your mind is empty, your feet move forward automatically, and you will get through it if you just hold on.

When facing difficulties, don't think about how difficult it is, and don't keep saying it's difficult. Just focus on solving the problem.