How to discipline a disobedient child

Children are sometimes disobedient when they are young, which is a normal physiological phenomenon. As children mature mentally, they will have their own opinions, and they may develop a rebellious mentality. Therefore, parents must learn some skills in disciplining their children. They cannot beat or scold their children, and must let their children realize their mistakes. It is also particularly important for parents to set an example themselves.

How to discipline a disobedient child

1. Divert your child’s attention

Children will always have a rebellious mentality and like to go against their parents. If the child is disobedient, parents must educate the child patiently. If communication has no effect after a long time, do something else to divert the child's attention. Then educate your child again after a while, the effect will be better.

2. Find out the cause and prescribe the right remedy

Children's disobedience is usually caused by some special reasons or internal factors. Therefore, parents must observe their children carefully and analyze their children's behavior to find out the reasons why their children are disobedient. If a child feels wronged and unhappy, but does not say anything and has no way to relieve the emotion, he or she may vent by opposing the parents. So, what parents need to do is to allow their children to release their negative emotions as much as possible. If a child is sick and feels unwell, but the parents do not notice and continue to treat the child as usual, the child will also be very stubborn.

3. Set certain rules for your children

It's a good idea to set clear rules, but make sure your child understands them. For example, tell your child to "hold an adult's hand when crossing the road." If the child is not used to obeying these rules, parents should think of other ways. For example, if the child bullies his sister because he feels ignored, let him help his sister bathe and eat, and then find some time to spend alone with the child. If the child refuses to go to bed because he is afraid of the dark, you can leave a flashlight at the child's bedside.

4. Try to control yourself from hitting your children

The best situation is not to physically punish children. If a child makes a mistake, parents should not beat the child on impulse, because beating the child will often have the opposite effect. You can tell your child your true feelings of dissatisfaction, for example, you can say to him/her: "I am very disappointed with your behavior!" "I am really sad now!". Not only can it calm your own mood, but it can also allow children to think from other people's perspectives and reflect on themselves.