How to overcome love fear

It can be said that in most people's lives, there is always another person waiting for them to spend the rest of their lives together. When they find their other half, they will fall in love to determine whether the other person is the right person for them. Love seems beautiful to most people, but a few people have their own fear of love, which is love phobia. How should they find a solution to this disease?

Love Fear

After experiencing or seeing certain things, you develop a fear and distrust of love.

I want to get rid of this habit, but I am worried about falling into that state. I am afraid of establishing a relationship, and I am worried that once a relationship is established, the previous feelings will be gone forever. Being afraid that nothing lasts forever may actually be a sign of lack of self-confidence.

The initial reaction after the onset of love phobia is to gradually change life habits. People will be particularly attentive to emotional tests and think that all kinds of broken love stories are based on their own shoes. Those in love become even more serious, fragile and sensitive, and have financial and detective interests. They take stock of every detail of their feelings and are filled with intense curiosity about his (her) every move. As for the defeated, they feel tired, depressed, breathless, have palpitations, toothaches, headaches, and talk in their sleep. From then on, they either behave in strange ways and wander around, or become silent like a poet. When it comes to emotions, they are either mentally deficient or mentally paralyzed.

Symptom 1: Fear of falling in love with someone else

Symptom 2: Fear of falling deeply in love with someone

Symptom 3: Fear of getting hurt

Symptom 4: Fear of rejection

Symptom 5: Fear of losing the person you love most

Symptom 6: Fear of losing everything in love

Symptom 7: Fear of Hurting Others

Symptom 8: Fear of being constrained by a heart that loves freedom

Symptom 9: Fear that after falling in love, you will never be able to go back to the past

Symptom 10: Afraid that you love the other person more than the other person loves you

Symptom 11: Fear of wasting a lot of spare time because of love

Symptom 12: Fear of losing the freedom and personal space you had when you were single because of a relationship

The forms of love fear vary from person to person. According to the stage of love, it can be roughly divided into three categories, namely, fear before love (rejection-type love fear), fear during love (anxiety-type love fear) and fear after love (also known as hurt-type love fear).

Symptoms: Once you smell the scent of love, you will naturally retreat away, often afraid that the relationship will come to an end and all the joy will be in vain, so you would rather step back when the opportunity comes. At the same time, such people will ignore the enjoyment of the relationship process because they pay too much attention to the results.

What are the symptoms of love fear?

Fear of Losing

People who are love-phobic often have a negative attitude towards marriage and love, thinking that if they are going to lose it in the end, it is better not to have it at all, especially those who have been hurt in love.

Fear of rejection

People with love phobia dare not express their love even if they are deeply in love with the other person, because they are afraid that the other person will reject them and dislike them because of this. In the final analysis, it is a kind of lack of self-confidence.

Afraid of falling in

Some patients with love phobia are very afraid that they will fall deeply in love with others and accidentally fall too deeply, but the other party will not return the same feelings. Patients with love phobia often cannot accept this phenomenon.

Fear of losing freedom

Changing attitudes towards men

Men are also human beings, and they are people just like you. Don’t think about how bad men are. Men are still much better. Even if someone gets hurt in the end, it is a problem between two people. You can’t blame it all on the man. This is unfair to men.

Don't blindly reject love

There may not be many relationships that can last until the end, but this does not mean that there is no good result. Of course, it is good to be together, but even if you can't be together, it is much better than being blind alone, so you can try to fall in love, and don't blindly reject it.

Ask friends for help when you encounter problems

If you feel that your family can have a certain influence on you when you are in love, then ask your friends for help. As a third party, friends may be more likely to judge the whole thing from a good perspective and give advice when necessary. Compared to living alone, you may live a more fulfilling life.

Build your confidence

Many people are afraid of love because of their own conditions. They always feel that they are not good enough and that the god of luck will not find them. As a result, the more they think about it, the less confident they become. The less confident they are, the more afraid they are of falling in love. In fact, these are all troubles they create for themselves. There is no need to make themselves feel inferior. No one is perfect and you have to accept yourself.

Be tolerant to people and things

No matter what happens, you should tolerate men with a tolerant heart. If you always think that men are untrustworthy, or even think that men should be like this or like that, it will only make your fear of love more and more serious. Only if you tolerate him, he will give you a sense of security. If you keep asking for things, you are doomed to failure.

Change your cautiousness

People with small minds often worry about gains and losses, and no matter what happens, they like to develop according to their own pre-designed plan. How can this be achieved? Won't there be a fork in the road? Why force it? If you treat it with a normal mentality, perhaps your fear of love will be much better.

Don't calculate the effort and the reward

When you are in love, you will not get as much as you give. In many cases, you may only give without getting anything. But this is not the root cause of love phobia. You have to know that what you give is relative. Others are also giving all the time. How can you erase what others have done?