What to do if a woman is very suspicious

In life, many women always suspect that their boyfriends have cheated on them, or that they did not lock the door when they went out, or that they have some disease, etc. In fact, if this situation occurs frequently, they may be suffering from a paranoid disorder. So what should we do if women have a serious paranoia? If the paranoia is very serious, it will inevitably affect their work and life. This requires knowing how to treat paranoia.

1. Types of paranoia

Suspicion: People who are suspicious always make up some causal relationships to explain why others behave and speak in a certain way. If a woman sees people talking in a low voice, she thinks they are talking about her.

Striving for fairness: Seeking absolutely fair results, always complaining about the unfairness against oneself, and being jealous of people who are better than oneself.

Should theory: Many people's emotions are manipulated by "should theory". For example, if I am nice to someone, he should be grateful to me, otherwise, he will be unhappy.

Dependency: Some people are dependent on the opposite sex, and once they leave, they cannot support their own emotional life. The best way to escape this emotional trap is to be independent.

Seeking approval: Many people regard gaining the approval of others as a powerful force of control, but the essence of this is: "not believing in oneself."

Perfectionism: A perfectionist demands that everything he or she does or others must be perfect, but in the end, it makes himself or others unacceptable.

Self-centeredness: People with a self-centeredness always use the excuse that their nature is difficult and they are unwilling to change themselves and develop themselves. In fact, we are afraid to restrain ourselves and seek forgiveness for ourselves.

2. Symptoms of paranoia

I feel upset, at a loss, dizzy, short of breath, weak limbs, and unwell all day long. I feel pain here and discomfort there. I can't enjoy my food and I can't sleep well. Sometimes they refuse to listen to the doctor's explanation and even hope that the doctor will say that he is sick or blame the doctor for not caring about them, or blame the backward medical equipment for not being able to diagnose their illness. As paranoia develops, various symptoms will become more severe and more numerous, and the person may even suspect that he or she has an incurable disease.

3. What to do if a woman is very suspicious

From the perspective of ideological method, the treatment of "suspicion" means learning to look at people, things, and oneself from the materialistic viewpoint of seeking truth from facts. It should be based on objective facts and materials, and we should avoid wild imagination and subjectivism. From a psychological perspective, the way to treat "suspicion" is to learn to use positive self-suggestion. Suspicion is related to suggestion. The so-called suggestion is to influence people's psychology and behavior in an implicit and indirect way without analysis, criticism or resistance. Being suggestible means that a person takes the above influence as a belief and tries his best to move towards this aspect psychologically. Suggestions can come from others or from oneself. Suggestions that come from oneself are called "self-suggestions". Based on the effectiveness of the suggestions, they can be divided into positive suggestions and negative suggestions. Positive suggestions can increase people's confidence and boost their spirits. Negative suggestions can make people worry and be suspicious. "Suspecting illness when you are not ill" is an unhealthy mentality.

In daily life, as long as we strengthen positive self-suggestion, which is what people often say "feeling good about ourselves", we will not have the abnormal psychological state of "suspecting illness when there is no illness".